The Grief Resource Center is a place for everyone dealing with the loss of a loved one

THE WOODLANDS, Texas -- When Patricia Anderson’s daughter texted her on Friday, December 14, about the tragedy unfolding on television at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut, she couldn’t help but turn to her faith. Her brain could not keep up with what her eyes were seeing. How does a kind, loving God allow such mayhem to occur to such innocent children? She had to remind herself that we live in a fallen world with broken people.

“I was amazed to see little Emilie Parker’s father say his heart goes out to the family of the shooter,” said Anderson. “He went on to say ’how hard this must be for you.’ How many of us have that capacity?”

Many in the community know Anderson’s story and know her own heartache dealing with the suicide of a loved one. “I believe my own tragedy allows me to come day after day, to this little corner of the world where we here at The Grief Resource Center (TGRC), try our best to comfort and help mend the hearts of those struggling with the death of a loved one,” said Anderson.

The non-profit organization was officially formed in 2002, although the foundation was laid as far back as 1997, by Trish Anderson. “When I lay my head down at night I read this Scripture [Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NIV]. In my mind and in my heart I place every sorrow and heartache, along with every moment of laughter and joy of each day, in their rightful place…at the foot of the cross,” said Anderson.

The one thing you don’t want to think about this joyous season is learning that a loved one has died. But for many, this is a painful reality.

TGRC shares the following advice for those experiencing their first holiday season after the death of a loved one and year round:

• Everyone is watching and waiting for you to talk about “Dad.” Do. Say their name out loud. Share stories that will make you laugh and cry!

• Always have Plan B in place. If you want to attend the Christmas Service as in previous years, sit in a different spot towards the back. In the event it becomes too emotional, you can slip out the door unnoticed. Take your own vehicle to holiday events, so you can leave when your festive spirit has run out.

• Every day give 30 minutes to devote to your mental, spiritual, emotional and physical health in order to maintain a balanced life. For instance, sign up to do a crossword puzzle online daily, take your hot chocolate to watch the sunset, purchase a daily devotional to reap encouragement and commit to a brisk 10 minute walk every morning or afternoon.

• Find that which restores your soul like gardening, journaling, exercising and such.

• Always know that you are not alone on this journey. Find that friend or relative, spiritual advisor, support group or therapist that will listen and help propel you forward back into life.

TGRC hosts educational seminars and creative workshops to handle depression and bereavement. Their primary focus is aiding families and individuals mourning the death of a loved one. Located at at 25775 Oak Ridge Drive, Suite 150, west of I-45 North, the Grief Resource Center is there for you.

“Our thoughts and prayers remain with all of you this holiday season and throughout the coming year,” said Anderson.

To seek the assistance of the Grief Resource Center, call or email, or go to the website in the link provided.